You Got Me Feenin'
Before I continue with the series there is something I want to touch on that is sort if bothering me…
In the last post (and another before) I wrote about how girls my age shouldn’t be involved in long-term relationships that started when they were teenagers. A big part of that being they need space to figure things out.
In one of my first posts, a small essay on the movie Garden State, I wrote about how finding oneself and figuring things out were bullshit excuses for leaving someone you love.
HUH? A little contradiction here, eh? Well, I did sort of explain, in the Garden State post, that if you truly love somebody you must have found yourself and figured things out more than you thought. The thing is teenagers have probably not found themselves and most definitely have figured close to nothing out so to enter in a serious relationship is just open to flaws. Plus, these dudes that these girls are with most likely are nothing but blocks to the girls growth, which is somewhat evident in the fact that they are still together (if you look at it through logical eyes).
An easier way to put all this, finding yourself and figuring things out is a good excuse to leave someone if they are stopping you from doing those things. If there is real love between you two it is possible to be together without being in each other’s way, but I’m going to go ahead and advise that for the most part figuring things out is probably better when you’re on your own.
Anyway, I’ll be back with more on the guy code.
In the last post (and another before) I wrote about how girls my age shouldn’t be involved in long-term relationships that started when they were teenagers. A big part of that being they need space to figure things out.
In one of my first posts, a small essay on the movie Garden State, I wrote about how finding oneself and figuring things out were bullshit excuses for leaving someone you love.
HUH? A little contradiction here, eh? Well, I did sort of explain, in the Garden State post, that if you truly love somebody you must have found yourself and figured things out more than you thought. The thing is teenagers have probably not found themselves and most definitely have figured close to nothing out so to enter in a serious relationship is just open to flaws. Plus, these dudes that these girls are with most likely are nothing but blocks to the girls growth, which is somewhat evident in the fact that they are still together (if you look at it through logical eyes).
An easier way to put all this, finding yourself and figuring things out is a good excuse to leave someone if they are stopping you from doing those things. If there is real love between you two it is possible to be together without being in each other’s way, but I’m going to go ahead and advise that for the most part figuring things out is probably better when you’re on your own.
Anyway, I’ll be back with more on the guy code.
posted by Angelo at 11/15/2005 12:43:00 AM
2 Comments:
I love the sountrack to that movie! so good.
At what point does a person decide "I've got enough figured out in life that I can be with someone else"?
Is it once they have had a job and lived on their own for a while (only after school is over)?
From my experience with friends who have gotten married, it seems like where they are in figuring things out isn't the big issue-- it seems more that they want the same things in life- what they each dream of for the future go together well or are the same thing.
i don't know...
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