Baby Baby Baby

So I've made attempts at writing my take on pet names but every time I just throw away what I wrote. It's difficult for me because I sort of keep going back and forth on the whole topic. For most of my days I have been against the idea of pet names (ex. honey, baby, sweetheart) and I've even gone as far as swearing that I'd never use them, but when everyone around me rolled their eyes and doubted that I would be able to steer clear of pet names I started doubting myself as well. The problem is that most people in our culture go through that phase where everything that is typically romantic in our world is in actuality anti-romantic, so I thought that perhaps I was just going through that phase. Still, if it was just a phase why was that feeling embedded into my attitude for so long? Obviously this wasn't just a phase. It was something that I thought long and hard about and was honestly and completely against. The question remained though. Why the hell am I so against pet names? Ultimately the use of pet names is innocent. They are generic nicknames you use for the romantic partner (I'm so damn politically correct sometimes). Recently one of my best friends, a wicked pet names user explained to me the "connection" you share with a partner when pet names are used. This friend's explanation made me wonder if it was just my typical fear of relationships excuse that was working here, but I don't think it is. In this case that excuse would be the easy way out. The fact of the matter is that underneath this thick skin there is this romantic that lives in me, and it's this romantic side of me that made me realize that it was not the use of pet names that bothered me it was the actual pet names being used that bothered me. My concern lies in the generic pet names because, well, they are generic. I maintain with all that is me that I will not be a regular user of the pet names baby, honey and sweetheart but I concede that I probably will be lead to use pet names one day, but rest assured that there will at least be somewhat of a sense of originality with the these words, because after all they will be helping to establish a connection between whomever I share a relationship with and myself, and there's no better way to do that than with something that is exclusively between us.

But I refuse to do that whole tone and pitch change deal...I mean, you know, I'll at least try not to....................