Just Like A Knight In Shining Armor
A friend of mine told me a story recently about an argument he had with a coworker. As he was walking by this person's desk he heard music coming from her cubicle. He noticed that the music was particularly awful so he had to go see what it was. When he asked his coworker what was playing she informed him that it was Nick Lachey. This of course was followed with disgust by my friend. After he had expressed this disgust the woman asked, "What is wrong with Nick Lachey?" He replied, "Think about what you just said." She had a blank look on her face. She had no idea what to say until the following words, "Why what do you listen to?" Now, most of my friends have at least decent tastes in music, this friend of mine has excellent taste. So he began listing off some great bands off the top of his head. The lady came back with, "I've only heard of one of those." He looked at sharply, "So?" And this is when she replied,
"WELL IF THEY'RE SO GOOD WHY HAVEN'T I HEARD OF THEM?"
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"If they were good they'd be popular."
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"If they aren't popular it must be because they're bad."
There are so many things wrong with the above attitude. The main problem is it makes your opinion dependent on the majority's opinion. It's a conformist attitude, and it's wrong. People, societies have a history of making bad decisions, and supporting the wrong things. That's right, people as a whole are just huge idiots, ourselves included. You cannot base your opinions on the masses' because they cannot always be trusted. Not to mention, you are your own person. You have your own mind, heart, and soul. Use them.
Another friend of mine drunkenly repeated a similar theory for the millionth time to me the other night,
"IF SHE DOESN'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND THERE IS A REASON WHY."
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"She/he is single? What's wrong with her/him?"
I admit I used to believe in this theory, but over time I've begun to see its many flaws. For one thing, it is a negative and mostly defeatist attitude being that most who hold it are those who are in pursuit of relationships but lack confidence that success will be obtained. Also, as with the music/popularity correlation, it reduces you to yield to other people's opinions. Still, there is something to be said about this theory, at least in the way my friend stated it, because there just might be a REASON why she isn't with somebody. The thing is, how do we know that reason is a bad one? How do we know the reason why somebody is with someone is good? I think it's fair to say that a very large portion of those who are in relationships are so for wrong reasons. On that note, I believe a good portion of people aren't in relationships for very good reasons. I don't believe all the good ones are taken. If you just step back and take a look at who the good ones really are I think you'll realize this too.
"WELL IF THEY'RE SO GOOD WHY HAVEN'T I HEARD OF THEM?"
aka
"If they were good they'd be popular."
aka
"If they aren't popular it must be because they're bad."
There are so many things wrong with the above attitude. The main problem is it makes your opinion dependent on the majority's opinion. It's a conformist attitude, and it's wrong. People, societies have a history of making bad decisions, and supporting the wrong things. That's right, people as a whole are just huge idiots, ourselves included. You cannot base your opinions on the masses' because they cannot always be trusted. Not to mention, you are your own person. You have your own mind, heart, and soul. Use them.
Another friend of mine drunkenly repeated a similar theory for the millionth time to me the other night,
"IF SHE DOESN'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND THERE IS A REASON WHY."
aka
"She/he is single? What's wrong with her/him?"
I admit I used to believe in this theory, but over time I've begun to see its many flaws. For one thing, it is a negative and mostly defeatist attitude being that most who hold it are those who are in pursuit of relationships but lack confidence that success will be obtained. Also, as with the music/popularity correlation, it reduces you to yield to other people's opinions. Still, there is something to be said about this theory, at least in the way my friend stated it, because there just might be a REASON why she isn't with somebody. The thing is, how do we know that reason is a bad one? How do we know the reason why somebody is with someone is good? I think it's fair to say that a very large portion of those who are in relationships are so for wrong reasons. On that note, I believe a good portion of people aren't in relationships for very good reasons. I don't believe all the good ones are taken. If you just step back and take a look at who the good ones really are I think you'll realize this too.
posted by Angelo at 6/19/2006 10:27:00 PM
3 Comments:
Just to clarify that statement. There's a reason she doesn't have a boyfriend," doesn't just mean bad things.
Yes, it includes the bad things but the other reasons a girl could be single is, "Just doesn't want to be with anyone," which is a good reason she's single, but is still a reason not to bother. Or, she's focusing on career and/or school, which is another good reason.
Maybe a better way of phrasing it is, "If a girl is single, she has a reason why she's single."
Isn't your friend's point of view equally as bad as the Nick Lachey fan? She doesn't think he has good taste in music cause she's never heard of the bands he likes.
While her opinion is close minded and annoying, so is his.
He's guilty of the, "The bands i like are good cause they aren't really popular" mindset. Just because something is popular doesn't make it bad, and just because something isn't popular doesn't make it good.
I hate to be harsh here but you're reading something that isn't there. I did not write nor insinuate that my friend's point of view is against popular bands because of their popularity. I agree with you that this opinion is just as bad as the other, and as a matter of fact so does my friend who I just let read your comment. Not to mention, the coworker did in fact know of at least one of the bands he listed because of their popularity.
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