If Your Lost You Can Look and You Will Find Me

We all play different roles for different people in our lives. Perhaps one of the most frustrating things to deal with is when you don't know what role it is you need to play for a certain person.

For a lot of the people in my life I play somewhat of an authority figure. This is probably due largely to the fact that I was actually the boss of a lot of these people, and also partly because I do have leadership qualities in me.

This is not to say I'm a nagging asshole. In fact, I'm more of an overseer. I don't want to stop people from making mistakes. You learn from mistakes. And that is certainly where I'll step in. Because, I refuse to let people I care about come away from their mistakes with nothing.

I also tend to be a pusher. That is, when someone tells me they want something, I tell them to go get it. This is especially true (and frustrating) when the thing they want is right there just waiting to be grabbed.

I've spent a lot of time recently agonizing over what my role was for a specific person. Let me tell you. Last night when I finally figured out that it was exactly this common role I play that she needs from me, I was super relieved. Like a boy trying to watch through the scramble of the porn channel and then finally discovering the internet. While this wasn't really the role I wanted to play originally. Well, it's just nice to know what I'm supposed to do.

Know your role. It'll set you free.

The Only Way You Could Meet My Crazy...

Like 99.9% of all Americans (and 100% of all males) I'm completely on board the Jennifer Lawrence bandwagon. Really, how could you not be? She's absolutely gorgeous, she's loaded with talent, and she probably has the quickest wit we've seen from a celebrity in a while, especially from one so young. A friend of mine recently asked me if I thought her PR people stress out every time she opens her mouth for fear that she might say something a little too ridiculous. My response? They probably have one of the easiest jobs in the world. "Hey Jen, um, just be you. That's all." She's just way too charming to worry about. All this to say, yes, one of reasons I liked Silver Linings Playbook so much was because of her. She was great in the film, but SLP hit me hard for other reason.

While I was watching SLP the thought that kept coming to my mind along with a wry smile was, "Holy crap I know these people." This is exactly why I loved the film so much. Unlike most of the Oscar nominated films, the characters in SLP were not larger than life. They weren't one of the most revered Presidents in US history. They weren't super strong willed agents of the CIA. They were the nutty people we know. They were the crazy people some of us are.

If you haven't had the conversation about your history with meds, you must have been in the room when the conversation was happening. If you haven't been stubbornly holding on to someone who doesn't deserve your love, you might have been the object of that love. If you haven't been in love with someone who was stubbornly holding on to someone else, you could have been the friend who was wondering why your good friend wasn't just moving on.

Yes, the characters of SLP were not your typical RomCom characters. But I promise you they were real. I know them. You know them. And this is why I loved the movie so much. It reminded me that we all have stories. It reminded me that we are all living in stories. It made me realize that no matter how boring, common, or even unusual we think our lives might be, there is something there that can be put on the big screen.

You are living a movie. Play your part well, and maybe you'll end up sitting in a chair surrounded by loved ones and holding the one you love.

Guess Who's Back

Just for fun I thought I'd check out the stats for this blog. To my surprise this thing still gets a decent handful of views. Not only that, people are still commenting on these super old posts. Not spammy comments either, but totally legit comments. I guess what people say is true. You put enough content out there people are going to find it. So I'm thinking I have to put even more content out there. Here we go.